[vc_row padding_top=”0px” padding_bottom=”0px”][vc_column fade_animation_offset=”45px” width=”1/1″ id=”” class=”post-content” style=””][text_output]LOVE: it is the substance of music, poetry and drama. Wars have been fought for it and people have chosen to die for lack of it. It is regarded as the cure for pain and misery; a tonic that lifts our lives to heavenly bliss. When we separate fantasy and reality, we find that most people do not understand this common emotion.

People are on a quest for true love; the supposed key to happiness. However, few know what it really is. Many variations of true love have been planted in our imagination by fairy tales, movies and romance novels. Women imagine a knight in shining armour; a prince who only sees and lives for them. Men imagine a princess in distress who can only be saved by them and will melt at love’s first kiss.

We believe someone loves us when they match the image in our minds. It has the ideal standard of feeling good, the opposite of rejection. This often causes us to reject love that does not match this fantasy. The most truthful but misunderstood love is, of course, that of a mother; a bittersweet mixture of care and correction.

A young man had finished his tour and went home after fighting in a long and gruelling war. He got a room in a hotel close to the airport and called his mother. He told her he had landed and would be there shortly. Of course, she was thrilled and happily began to prepare the food he loved. Shortly after he called again, this time to tell her that he was taking a guest with him.

He explained that this guest was very special to him. This person was injured and became handicapped while saving his life. He also wanted the guest to stay with him; permanently. His mother was thankful to the man who saved her son’s life but caring for someone permanently made no sense. She explained that he was blinded by gratitude and in spite of his insistence, she managed to dissuade him. He relented, said “Okay, mom” and hung up.

The next phone call this mother got was to inform her that her son had committed suicide. When she eventually identified his body, she realised, he was talking about himself. He had lost an arm and leg; he was trying to find out if she would care for him. He did not understand the love of a mother and that misunderstanding brought misery to everyone.

Many people are just as deceived as this young man. We believe that true love presents everything that matches our fantasy. It only says what we want to hear and does what we want to do. Love that fights with our expectation cannot be true love.  Someone who scolds or corrects us is wicked. It causes us to blindly disregard the hearts of the people around us who genuinely care.

True love has no conditions. It is focussed on nurturing, protecting and preserving. People who truly love each other will fight with each other to prevent them from harming themselves. True love is being able to look past the physical or the circumstance to connect with the heart.

Many of us could be searching for a love that was always there, just not in the package we expected.  Look again, you may be surprised![/text_output][/vc_column][/vc_row][vc_row padding_top=”0px” padding_bottom=”0px”][vc_column fade_animation_offset=”45px” width=”1/1″][vc_raw_html]JTNDc3R5bGUlM0UlMEEuZW50cnktdGh1bWIlMjBpbWclMjAlN0IlMEElMjAlMjAlMjAlMjBtYXgtaGVpZ2h0JTNBJTIwNDAwcHglM0IlMEElN0QlMEElMEEucG9zdC1jb250ZW50JTIwJTdCJTBBJTIwJTIwJTIwJTIwdGV4dC1hbGlnbiUzQSUyMGp1c3RpZnklM0IlMEElMjAlMjAlMjAlMjB0ZXh0LWp1c3RpZnklM0ElMjBpbnRlci13b3JkJTNCJTBBJTdEJTBBJTNDJTJGc3R5bGUlM0U=[/vc_raw_html][/vc_column][/vc_row]

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