[vc_row padding_top=”0px” padding_bottom=”0px”][vc_column fade_animation_offset=”45px” width=”1/1″ id=”” class=”post-content” style=””][text_output]The term antisocial can have basically two meanings, it can either refer to someone who is shy and is unable to function in social settings or it may also describe someone who deliberately rebels against what people generally call “acceptable social behaviour.” For the purpose of this post, we will focus on people who find it difficult to function in crowds. These people are often called rude, unkind or even insensitive.
The thing is, the vast majority aren’t trying to be disruptive. They actually want to fit in but find it difficult to do so. Oftentimes, they may say the wrong thing and are seemingly always misunderstood, coming across as callous or unfeeling. For some reason, the way they think doesn’t match how everyone else thinks and so they tend to feel like outcasts. In the company of others, they feel judged and ostracised, so they are always on the defensive end.
The problem with this way of thinking is that everyone says the wrong thing at some point. Everyone is insensitive at some point, perhaps, a lot. Some people make jokes in situations where it is not acceptable because they don’t know what to do. So if this was the yardstick, we would all be insensitive and therefore, antisocial. The greatest way out of the deception is to learn to think beyond ourselves. If we realise we’ve said the wrong thing, we just apologise and learn not to say that next time.
Henry Ford, the founder of Ford Motors, failed and went broke five times before he succeeded. Edison made 1,000 unsuccessful attempts at inventing the light bulb. When a reporter asked, “How did it feel to fail 1,000 times?” Edison replied, “I didn’t fail 1,000 times. The lightbulb was an invention with 1,000 steps. We learn from our mistakes and socialisation like anything is learnt, it is a mixture of failure and successes. When we label ourselves as failures, we will conclude that we should be away from people.
Even if you make a mistake, it’s ok. You say the wrong things too often? That means you have more opportunities than others to learn. The people who seem to be doing it well mess up too! They learnt and so can we. Being alone and avoiding mistakes is a mistake by itself. Go ahead, make mistakes and learn. As a novelist, Samuel Beckett once said “Ever tried. Ever failed. No matter. Try Again. Fail again. Fail better.”
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