[vc_row padding_top=”0px” padding_bottom=”0px”][vc_column fade_animation_offset=”45px” width=”1/1″ id=”” class=”post-content” style=””][text_output]Imagine a pyramid and let us fill it with people from the bottom up. Following the shape of the pyramid, as we move from the base to the top, the number of the people decreases. There is only space for one person at the top of the pyramid. That person at the top is alone and no one can stand beside him and everyone is beneath him. That may sound good; in fact, as we grow, this is the goal taught to every young child.
Most, if not all, of us, have a deep desire to be this person at the top. It looks good, but it is a tricky position in fact. Someone in this position has no one to share his heart with and he has very few people he can trust. Ironically, everybody wants this position. Before getting such a position, someone may have fought passionately and competed with many to achieve it. Now that this person has it and there can be only one person at the top, everybody else gets trampled.
People in this position can’t help but magnify themselves; to be in this position requires great self-confidence. People may, however, wonder “But how much is too much self-confidence and what is wrong with it?” Well, to be this confident, you have to ignore the “haters” and get away from “certain people”. However, what if some of them are right? Suppose the people and so-called negative comments someone ignores were actually good advice? Not every good advice actually sounds good. Think about it, who wants to hear “You are too full of yourself!”? Wouldn’t your natural response be “You mistake my confidence for arrogance.” If people can only trust themselves, won’t they stubbornly live isolated lives and think that they are okay?
Surprisingly, even people at the lower levels of the pyramid can have this heart. Although they are surrounded by many people, they are not connected with others. Living like they are already at the top, they can’t share their hearts and consider how they are affecting people around them. They are already living like others are beneath them so they too will be miserable and live an isolated life. The path to suicide generally starts with a heart that is isolated. A certain thought enters the mind and, with no-one to share it with, they get hooked and it drags them to destruction.
This may sound extreme, but your confidence may be destroying you. A famous quote from Bertrand Russell says “The whole problem with the world is that fools and fanatics are always so certain of themselves, and wise people so full of doubts.” The wisest people hold on to the possibility that they could be wrong and therefore listen to others, they can’t know everything. Blind confidence leads to isolation — loneliness and misery.
Are you too confident in yourself?
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