[vc_row padding_top=”0px” padding_bottom=”0px”][vc_column fade_animation_offset=”45px” width=”1/1″ id=”” class=”post-content” style=””][text_output]Did you know that each of us displays at least three different personalities? It may sound strange but it is actually true. We go through our lives adapting to different environments and in each case, a different version of ourselves appears. For example, the ‘you’ at school and the ‘you’ at home are different in very subtle ways. If our parents secretly observed us at school among our friends, they would be surprised at how different we behave.
What about how WE view ourselves? Everybody thinks they know themselves to some degree. In pretty much all cases, our self-assessment is exaggerated to some degree; positively or negatively. However, in most cases, we conclude that we are much better than how other people see us. We like to say, “You don’t understand me!” That is just a by-product of our biased perspective.
Three college students shared a dorm room for a semester. After about a month in the same space, one young man couldn’t bear it. He went to the dorm manager, full of complaints. He decried the constantly filthy state of the room and bemoaned how difficult it was to live with grown men who didn’t clean up after themselves. Surprisingly, all three of them had the same complaint. Everyone thought the other two were the problem.
Actually, each of them grew up having mothers who served them. Their mother took care of them and ensured that their rooms were clean. Living in a clean room, they all concluded that they were tidy. However, the reality was, they expected others to clean up after them. The others were filthy because THEY weren’t cleaning the room; amazing! Three men who didn’t know their true selves. The funny thing is, neither do we! This ignorance is one of the biggest problems we face in our practical lives.
Oftentimes we feel misunderstood by others but because people respond to our true image. We, on the other hand, expect them to respond to our contrived image: the one that WE create in our minds. The fact is that no-one can see their TRUE image on their own. To learn about our true unbiased self, we have to search and check. Check our reflection in the different mirrors/people we have around us.
Too many times we check trick mirrors like those at circuses and walk away thinking we are tall when we are actually short. We need to listen to the people we interact with. Being quick to dismiss what they say because we think we know is a recipe for disaster. The truth is out there, we just have to search for it; but a map only becomes useful when we know where we are. So… who is the real you?[/text_output][/vc_column][/vc_row][vc_row padding_top=”0px” padding_bottom=”0px”][vc_column fade_animation_offset=”45px” width=”1/1″][vc_raw_html]JTNDc3R5bGUlM0UlMEEuZW50cnktdGh1bWIlMjBpbWclMjAlN0IlMEElMjAlMjAlMjAlMjBtYXgtaGVpZ2h0JTNBJTIwNDAwcHglM0IlMEElN0QlMEElMEEucG9zdC1jb250ZW50JTIwJTdCJTBBJTIwJTIwJTIwJTIwdGV4dC1hbGlnbiUzQSUyMGp1c3RpZnklM0IlMEElMjAlMjAlMjAlMjB0ZXh0LWp1c3RpZnklM0ElMjBpbnRlci13b3JkJTNCJTBBJTdEJTBBJTNDJTJGc3R5bGUlM0U=[/vc_raw_html][/vc_column][/vc_row]
