[vc_row padding_top=”0px” padding_bottom=”0px”][vc_column fade_animation_offset=”45px” width=”2/3″ id=”” class=”post-content” style=””][text_output]Isolation can mean that you are separated from everyone else, perhaps present in the flesh but absent, your mind is somewhere else. Imagine a bachelor pad apartment, a place for a single man who just wants to be by himself. It may be equipped with everything to suit the need of its owner, but once it is just for him it will be pretty basic, there would be no need to fancy it up much. The refrigerator will probably have the food he likes, and the TV will, no doubt, be left on the channel he likes to watch. He won’t need lots of utensils, dishes or glasses, remember this is just for him.
That place will not be very welcoming and certainly not furnished to welcome guests. Most likely because he will be the only one seeing it, it can become messy because no one is seeing it but him. That is what a closed heart is like, it seems okay to us because no one is seeing what goes on there. However, it will not be very welcoming of others. Going to a house like that, the owner will most likely come outside. Close the door behind them talk to you, then go back in and close the door when you go. It is not easy for that person to let people see what is going on inside their heart. Sounds familiar?
There was a girl whose mother divorced and remarried. Her mother now had a new husband and together they had a child, her new half-sister. She liked her sister and her step-father was ok. But one day she sat in the living room and looked at the three of them happily joking together across the room and thought, “They look happy but I am not one of them, I am an outsider, an outcast.” Suddenly, apart from her intention, her mother seemed like a betrayer who now found something better and didn’t need her. From that moment, she became rebellious and uncontrollable, “Traitor!”, she thought.
When her mother was kind she viewed it as pity and didn’t want it and rebelled. Her mother naturally wouldn’t stand for the rebellion and tried to discipline her. She saw that as confirmation that she was unwanted in this new and happy family. Her mother was at a loss and couldn’t reach her, she didn’t know what was happening to her daughter. She stopped studying, “no one cares, what’s the point?” She eventually dropped out of school and became pregnant. All from one thought that closed her heart and dragged her into isolation.
Misunderstandings happen, but when we can open the door of our heart and let someone in they can help to clear up those misunderstandings. That girl’s heart became a bachelor pad and soon became very messy. A closed heart can start with simple misunderstandings and result in us being closed off from the world and filled with resentment and bitterness. Has this ever happened to you? The reality is, this girl’s situation is not unique, she just needed someone she could trust, someone she could let into her heart who could say, “That is not true!”
Isolation can mean, I trust no one, but even in the TV series, The X-Files is known for this phrase, “Trust No-one”. But even the main character had to trust his partner. When we were young we had to trust our mother to survive. We don’t have to close our hearts and sink into despair if we can learn to talk; let someone in. The greatest disinfectant for a lie or misunderstanding is the truth. If you have been isolated, you have been hugging a lie. Everyone with a nice fancy house actually wants to welcome visitors and their house is furnished that way. An open heart can accommodate other people and is what makes people seem friendly.
Why don’t you open the door of your heart and let the light in? A single ray of light is enough to brighten any room. If we can learn to start sharing how we feel, our lives will become much brighter at the end.
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