[vc_row padding_top=”0px” padding_bottom=”0px”][vc_column fade_animation_offset=”45px” width=”1/1″ id=”” class=”post-content” style=””][text_output 0=””]Have you ever wondered why sometimes some students can’t seem to get along with their teachers, why some kids can never understand their parents or even why some wives can’t stand their husbands? For so long we have been living under the notion that things are supposed to be a certain way in our life relationships and when that doesn’t happen as expected, we feel miserable.
Think all of those Disney movies we watched as kids, did you notice that every beautiful and kind girl has a prince charming waiting for her? Not only that, despite the circumstances, they meet each other, fall in love and at the end, they ride off into the sunset and live happily ever after. It looks romantic and beautiful in movies, but what about real life?
Many times a certain expectation clouds the way we view our family members, friends or even our teachers and this makes it difficult to accept them as they are. An expectation that was never realistic from the beginning, and was based on some ideal created by our imaginations. For example, what is true friendship? Society has fed us with a steady dose of distrust we are largely convinced that we cannot trust people. When we accept the strange idea that a good friend never hurts or disappoints us; standing by outside at all costs. We can never accept real people who will disappoint us from time to time.
In actuality, a true friend doesn’t allow us to do as we want, they stand in our way and fight with us when they see that we will hurt ourselves. At those times, we will not like it and feel hurt and disappointed. The same goes for even a parent-child relationship. Many youngsters growing up nowadays are under the impression that their parents don’t love them because of how they are being treated. Their idea of love is being left to do what they want but a parent who loves their child will refuse many of the things they desire. They will provide everything they need but not their whimsical wants and rebuke their tantrums.
When there is a gap between what we expect and the reality, that reality gap creates misery. How can we feel any kind of joy in our life relationships when we don’t understand the true heart of the people around us? The foundation of any relationship is a heart of trust: this person cares and that is why they are rebuking me now. My mother is telling me NO because she loves me. Knowing the truth is the key to true happiness, that truth leads to a connection, that connection is the foundation of real change.[/text_output][/vc_column][/vc_row][vc_row padding_top=”0px” padding_bottom=”0px”][vc_column fade_animation_offset=”45px” width=”1/1″][vc_raw_html 0=””]JTNDc3R5bGUlM0UlMEEuZW50cnktdGh1bWIlMjBpbWclMjAlN0IlMEElMjAlMjAlMjAlMjBtYXgtaGVpZ2h0JTNBJTIwNDAwcHglM0IlMEElN0QlMEElMEEucG9zdC1jb250ZW50JTIwJTdCJTBBJTIwJTIwJTIwJTIwdGV4dC1hbGlnbiUzQSUyMGp1c3RpZnklM0IlMEElMjAlMjAlMjAlMjB0ZXh0LWp1c3RpZnklM0ElMjBpbnRlci13b3JkJTNCJTBBJTdEJTBBJTNDJTJGc3R5bGUlM0U=[/vc_raw_html][/vc_column][/vc_row]
