[vc_row padding_top=”0px” padding_bottom=”0px”][vc_column fade_animation_offset=”45px” width=”1/1″ id=”” class=”post-content” style=””][text_output]Nobody likes to be alone all the time. Oftentimes, we just often don’t like new people or we’ve had a bad experience that clouds how we view the current situation. Perhaps that explains why we go to social gatherings and retreat to a far corner and entertain ourselves with our phone. Deep down, everyone, if they would admit it, wants to be “the life of the party” and ‘the star of the show.’
Every event contains a mixture of people who are not very different. Of course, we had different experiences and like different things but we are still just people, people who instinctively gather into groups where we feel most comfortable. If we go to an event with the mind that there is a special group there where “I” can be comfortable, it will change our entire perception.
The idea that we are antisocial usually starts when we try to fit into the wrong group. A Christian would not fit into a group of loud, aggressive persons who swear excessively. A feminist without a strong personality wouldn’t enjoy the company of male chauvinists who debase women with every word.
We need to understand that we call ourselves antisocial because of a negative past experience or an “educated” conclusion. To move beyond that we first have to understand that we are not unique. We tried to fit into the wrong group last time; it doesn’t mean that we are strange or weird. The truth is, we are normal and there are actually people just like us! Learning how to find these people and communicate with them is what makes us sociable.
Social settings contain are a varied mix of people. With an open mind, we can learn how to mix and mingle or ‘find our fit.’ In other words, when we open our heart, we are basically the same with manageable likes and dislikes. When we close our hearts, we are all different and should stay apart.
The new person at work or in class is looking for a friend. You can be that friend if you think of how uncomfortable you were and how they must be. Focusing on someone other than ourselves is a sure cure for being antisocial. What shuts us down in the first place is becoming self-absorbed and thinking there is nobody like us or nobody will like us.
We all have to go to social gatherings at some point, it doesn’t have to be miserable. Just go thinking that there is someone like me there and find them. They will be looking for the same place that you are. We have nothing to lose and friends to gain.
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