[vc_row padding_top=”0px” padding_bottom=”0px”][vc_column fade_animation_offset=”45px” width=”1/1″ id=”” class=”post-content” style=””][text_output]Arguments are normal, and they happen to everyone. From siblings to spouses, with enemies and friends. However, they are more painful when it’s with people we care about, especially when it is someone we spend a lot of time with. Oftentimes we conclude that if they change it would be so much better. Yes, that’s right: if THEY change. Clearly, THEY are the problem, and we are doing our best.
Marriages are fertile ground for arguments. Two people from different backgrounds in the same space, all the time…it is bound to happen. Added to that, women and men are genetically different. Women are usually more emotional and want to feel loved by their spouse. Men, on the other hand, tend to be more logical and demand respect.
Unfortunately, both men and women enter relationships with expectations both of themselves and their spouses. The men think their wives will or had better be different. Women believe the same and all the expectations from either side causes arguments. The man thinks the problem is the woman and vice versa.
However, arguments are necessary. It is through arguing that both parties learn what the other person really expects. It is also how they can adjust their expectations to realistic levels. The differences that we often view as a problem are also the reason why two people fit. Strength in one person complements the weakness in another. We think we need to be “the same” to get along, but differences are okay if there is TRUST.
The foundation of any good relationship is always trust and not an expectation. Relationships between friends are the same, “I have your back, and you have mine.” That opens the way for these friends to express everything comfortably; including how upset they are. Without this freedom, they end up just being pretenders or hypocrites.
Relationships should never hinge on emotions; instead, they flourish when hearts exchange things accurately. When someone’s heart is burning, they should be able to express that. The key is knowing that the other person is willing to listen and understands that in spite of how they are now, the friendship is still genuine.[/text_output][/vc_column][/vc_row][vc_row padding_top=”0px” padding_bottom=”0px”][vc_column fade_animation_offset=”45px” width=”1/1″][vc_raw_html]JTNDc3R5bGUlM0UlMEEuZW50cnktdGh1bWIlMjBpbWclMjAlN0IlMEElMjAlMjAlMjAlMjBtYXgtaGVpZ2h0JTNBJTIwNDAwcHglM0IlMEElN0QlMEElMEEucG9zdC1jb250ZW50JTIwJTdCJTBBJTIwJTIwJTIwJTIwdGV4dC1hbGlnbiUzQSUyMGp1c3RpZnklM0IlMEElMjAlMjAlMjAlMjB0ZXh0LWp1c3RpZnklM0ElMjBpbnRlci13b3JkJTNCJTBBJTdEJTBBJTNDJTJGc3R5bGUlM0U=[/vc_raw_html][/vc_column][/vc_row]