[vc_row padding_top=”0px” padding_bottom=”0px”][vc_column fade_animation_offset=”45px” width=”1/1″ id=”” class=”post-content” style=””][text_output]Apologizing is rarely easy. In many cases, the words associated with apologies end as another cliche. You know, like, “How are you doing?” People ask but never wait for a response. Relationships of whatever kind will produce arguments. Both sides are insisting that they are right and the other is wrong. However, when the truth comes, apologizing is difficult, and it is rare to find a heart that is genuinely apologetic.
To genuinely feel remorse and apologize from our hearts demands that we understand how we have hurt the heart of the other party. More than being right or wrong, which is where we focus, it is more important to understand how what we did affects the other party. Without that focus, apologies are just words that cannot repair the hurt that our previous actions or words have caused.
We would eliminate most arguments if we could communicate effectively. Meaning, if we could transfer how we feel to another person, so they understood us clearly, we would rarely need to argue. However, our inability to transfer how we feel causes frustration, confrontation and anger. In the end, we have two parties; both are insisting their opinion and ignoring the others.
Being able to listen and identify why the other person is miserable is the key. Proper apologies come when we identify that the apology does not mean we are wrong or right. It is an acknowledgement of how the other person was affected. At that point, we can put down our defenses and just say, “I am sorry, I hurt or offended you.” The focus returns to resolving the issue.
“I am sorry!” These three simple words can be just that: words. They can also be instrumental in helping us to move away from heated arguments and understand the heart of the others. The key again is understanding that we are apologizing for how we have affected someone else. This offence clouds the issue and leads to arguments and wars. It then moves beyond the critical point to personalities and bruised egos.
So the next time you find yourself in a disagreement, rather than preparing your defense, use the time to listen and acknowledge the other person’s pain. You will see that these three words are magical and make even challenging difficulties easy to resolve.[/text_output][/vc_column][/vc_row][vc_row padding_top=”0px” padding_bottom=”0px”][vc_column fade_animation_offset=”45px” width=”1/1″][vc_raw_html]JTNDc3R5bGUlM0UlMEEuZW50cnktdGh1bWIlMjBpbWclMjAlN0IlMEElMjAlMjAlMjAlMjBtYXgtaGVpZ2h0JTNBJTIwNDAwcHglM0IlMEElN0QlMEElMEEucG9zdC1jb250ZW50JTIwJTdCJTBBJTIwJTIwJTIwJTIwdGV4dC1hbGlnbiUzQSUyMGp1c3RpZnklM0IlMEElMjAlMjAlMjAlMjB0ZXh0LWp1c3RpZnklM0ElMjBpbnRlci13b3JkJTNCJTBBJTdEJTBBJTNDJTJGc3R5bGUlM0U=[/vc_raw_html][/vc_column][/vc_row]