[vc_row padding_top=”0px” padding_bottom=”0px”][vc_column fade_animation_offset=”45px” width=”1/1″ id=”” class=”post-content” style=””][text_output]Why do people become antisocial? It starts with a thought that they are. People don’t like us and we don’t fit in. Even the most antisocial person has a group of people with whom they are comfortable. These are the people they tend to stick to and whom they call friends. Antisocial behaviour starts with what people call shyness, the opposite of a fun engaging and outgoing personality. If you are like that, you will naturally think something is wrong with you and you’ll avoid social settings because you are, antisocial.
Famous actor, Brad Pitt is admittedly a very shy, antisocial person and described as a man of few words. He is quoted as loving to play characters that give him a chance to break out of his shyness. However, he is just one many people you would never consider shy. The list includes Harrison Ford of Indiana Jones and Star Wars fame, Eddie Murphy, Johnny Depp, Julia Roberts from Pretty Woman and Steven Spielberg. If Brad Pitt is shy and prefers to avoid crowds, why is your shyness a problem?
Being shy means you don’t really like crowds or uncomfortable settings and that is ok. Not liking them doesn’t mean we have to avoid them, though. Most really don’t like exercise but some people actually learn to enjoy it. Even if we are shy, what cripples us is the thought that I am strange. A typical symptom of antisocial behaviour is a desire to withdraw in a social setting — hence, “anti” social. But, as we have discussed we withdraw for a reason.
Brad Pitt still has to go the Academy Awards with paparazzi clamouring over him and he hates it. But, he has to do it, so he does. For shyness to become antisocial behaviour, we have to decide that we are going to avoid social groups. If you think about it, Brad Pitt doesn’t look shy, and your shyness doesn’t have to be a problem. The process of becoming truly happy begins with freeing yourself from the idea that you are strange.
In a social setting, just look for shy people like you. They should be easy for you to spot, they’re doing what you would do. Go and talk to them, talk about how uneasy this is and how uncomfortable you are. Share stories about your stress — suddenly, you ARE sociable. The greatest threat to our happiness is a refusal to break out of our thoughts and self-assessment. It is never as simple as we think, that is why we have to check what we think against the facts.
If we have something in common with Brad Pitt, Eddie Murphy or Julia Roberts, we can’t be that bad, can we? Breaking free of our thoughts is how we become free from the fear that we use to bind ourselves.[/text_output][/vc_column][/vc_row][vc_row padding_top=”0px” padding_bottom=”0px”][vc_column fade_animation_offset=”45px” width=”1/1″][vc_raw_html]JTNDc3R5bGUlM0UlMEEuZW50cnktdGh1bWIlMjBpbWclMjAlN0IlMEElMjAlMjAlMjAlMjBtYXgtaGVpZ2h0JTNBJTIwNDAwcHglM0IlMEElN0QlMEElMEEucG9zdC1jb250ZW50JTIwJTdCJTBBJTIwJTIwJTIwJTIwdGV4dC1hbGlnbiUzQSUyMGp1c3RpZnklM0IlMEElMjAlMjAlMjAlMjB0ZXh0LWp1c3RpZnklM0ElMjBpbnRlci13b3JkJTNCJTBBJTdEJTBBJTNDJTJGc3R5bGUlM0U=[/vc_raw_html][/vc_column][/vc_row]