[vc_row padding_top=”0px” padding_bottom=”0px”][vc_column fade_animation_offset=”45px” width=”1/1″ id=”” class=”post-content” style=””][text_output]Do you have this disease too? Do you feel like you need the approval of the people around you all the time? In school, we were in constant competition to be the top of the class, secretly envying the persons getting the recognition. The best in the class got all the attention and that’s when the association began; doing things well means people will like us. Conversely, the failure gets ridiculed, so we end up struggling just to avoid shame and fight for recognition.
Now we hunger for recognition so much that it warps our behaviour. We just have to be favoured, liked, special. People who break free from this shackle are called heroes. They somehow developed a singular focus on something other than themselves, be it an idea or a cause, and they push forward ignoring ridicule. Their behaviour is called heroic because they don’t care what people think and this is NOT normal.
We naturally want everybody to like us, simply because we don’t want to be the outcast. When it comes down to the wire, what we truly fear is failure and rejection. The thing is, failure of itself is not a bad thing. If we accept that we can always make foolish mistakes, we can be very confident because it would mean doing something stupid is okay or even normal. Then there is so much to be learnt from failure: Thomas Edison considered every one of his 10,000 missteps, a correction towards the right path. He never accepted them as a failure.
What about rejection? The simplest of things can become difficult if we think rejection is the result. Oprah Winfrey was an evening news reporter and apparently got rejected or fired because she couldn’t sever her emotions from her stories. Steve Jobs was rejected or fired by the company he founded. Their success stories in spite of rejection are well documented. The rejection was never the problem, and neither was the failure.
Why does everyone have to like us? Actually, they don’t. Once we have a clear idea of where we are going, we can push ahead, learning from each failure and using rejection to inspire us. Every great person started like you, being bound by fear. When we were kids our dreams had no bounds, but these kids became adults whose dreams were suffocated by the possibility of failure and rejection. Without a dream we get trapped in a lie, caged by a need to be liked.
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