[vc_row padding_top=”0px” padding_bottom=”0px”][vc_column fade_animation_offset=”45px” width=”1/1″ id=”” class=”post-content” style=””][text_output]Have you ever gone into a new setting and felt really uncomfortable? There are people who seem to be very engaging and have a lot of jokes to draw on. People seem to gravitate towards them and they are always the life of the party, but how about you? Do you often find somewhere comfortable and resort to your smartphone? You are not alone, many people have concluded that they are anti-social for this reason, in other words, they don’t know how to be sociable.
But why is this the case? We usually conclude that we just don’t fit in. We have already decided, perhaps based on past experiences that “I’m not funny” or “I’m boring”. Having come to that conclusion, everybody in this new group is just waiting for their chance to embarrass or laugh at me. To save ourselves the shame and pain, we just play it safe and find a place to be alone. However can anyone really be totally comfortable in a crowd and if so, didn’t they start out like us: uncertain and uneasy?
We conclude we are and even start behaving antisocially because we have already told ourselves that we are. There is a normal person in this setting and I am not like that. Even famous soccer stars who love the crowds during the game can become nervous in a different setting, like a gala event. People rate themselves and if they are below the standard, they start to isolate. Even brilliant scholars can become withdrawn among people way above their level of achievement. It all starts with an assessment of the environment, an assessment of ourselves and a conclusion.
The strangest thing is that we are not different. Everyone in the same setting we are avoiding has similar thoughts. Of course, there is an advantage to knowing someone beforehand but there is definitely someone in this crowd who is just like us. That is why we greet people; not to impress them but to find people we can bond with. Bonding with a smartphone isn’t hard but where’s fun in that? In this uncomfortable setting, there is someone who would love to meet you so they can be themselves.
That mind to look for someone like me, or just avoid it all, is the difference between being sociable and anti-social. So…are YOU antisocial?[/text_output][/vc_column][/vc_row][vc_row padding_top=”0px” padding_bottom=”0px”][vc_column fade_animation_offset=”45px” width=”1/1″][vc_raw_html]JTNDc3R5bGUlM0UlMEEuZW50cnktdGh1bWIlMjBpbWclMjAlN0IlMEElMjAlMjAlMjAlMjBtYXgtaGVpZ2h0JTNBJTIwNDAwcHglM0IlMEElN0QlMEElMEEucG9zdC1jb250ZW50JTIwJTdCJTBBJTIwJTIwJTIwJTIwdGV4dC1hbGlnbiUzQSUyMGp1c3RpZnklM0IlMEElMjAlMjAlMjAlMjB0ZXh0LWp1c3RpZnklM0ElMjBpbnRlci13b3JkJTNCJTBBJTdEJTBBJTNDJTJGc3R5bGUlM0U=[/vc_raw_html][/vc_column][/vc_row]
